I am unbroken.

Live. Life. Unbroken.

It's three little words but they have had such a big impact in my life.

I have a lot of people come up to me and tell me that they are broken. That their problems are insurmountable. They they cannot be fixed.

It hurts when I hear this. Not just because it is awful to see a beautiful soul in pain, but because I have been there. And here's what I learned: no one is ever broken.

Life is a process of change and re-birth. The old systems and ways break down to make way for new learnings and realizations. It is beautiful and painful and poetic. It is simultaneously wonderful and horrible.

Change is inevitable and yet we hold on to the old ways so hard that it is not the change itself that hurts, only our reluctance to embrace a new way. I never really understood the idea of surrendering but I am beginning to get a glimpse now. Learning to surrender is about learning to let go even when every fibre in your being wants to cling tight. Because letting go is harder but it will hurt less when you surrender.

No one is ever broken because we were never whole to begin with. We are in a constant state of change, of breaking down and building back up. Each time learning more. Each time getting stronger.

A broken bone is known to heal stronger than before the injury. A broken limb will never lose the scar of its journey but it is stronger for having healed and can never break the same way again. It is unbroken.

And just as our bones break and heal stronger, so too do we.

And so the goal is not to be whole for that is just an illusion. Aim instead to be stronger. Wiser. Unbroken. ​